Response to the article: Bad Therapy: Something Is Rotten in the Psychology Profession

My study of psychology or as a therapist has always been competence first.  Crisis management and intervention were part of my criteria as a competent psychologist.  I always looked for ways to be better, greater, humane, and helping psychologist.

Mean while there are people who go opposite direction like...

Torturing people?

Yes, there are psychologist who go against the supposedly ethics code that we abide by.
Yeah... not like have good intension but making mistake. With bad intention use the power of psychology. Like the opposite direction of a competent psychologist. 

Awareness and Attitude are important as a competent any professional. We must be aware of our power and work towards the greater good with compassion, a great attitude.

I don't agree with all ethics code, because you get a sense that it was created from fear rather than passion or caution. (i.e., fear of being sued, hurting others, being hurt, etc.)

However, I agree with the basic principles which are:

Principle A: Beneficence and Nonmaleficence
Principle B: Fidelity and Responsibility

Principle C: Integrity

Principle D: Justice

Principle E: Respect for People's Rights and Dignity

So torturing obviously goes against basically everything?
Yes, yes, if you are in military you are made to swear that you are soldier or officer first then a psychologist, and based on research you don't get any accurate information from torturing an individual. "Think about it, would you say the correct thing to a person who torture you or say whatever in order to get off the hook?"

Either way, we might not get good information from torturing but we definetly know how to psychologically provide pain, just reverse the process of therapy and positive psychology.

For what reason? To satisfy our sadistic nature? That is just sick, and that person is in need of serious therapy...

For same reason confession no longer hold the same power of evidence in legal cases no days.

Read full article at: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/deborah-kory/something-is-rotten-in-the-psychology-profession_b_6348962.html

Or Original: http://www.psychotherapy.net/blog/title/bad-therapy-let-s-talk-about-torture...wait-what

Comment on: Obama Is Pals With Sony Executive He Said Never Called

The position where Sony Pictures are in for the movie "The Interview," is a great opportunity for us to see how crisis management is going to be applied and how good of a manager they have. 

Sony Pictures is getting cyber hacked and receiving threats of violence.  Apparently from the North Korea. Interesting way to put your company into crisis. Start a fight with a country.

Okay, it is a great way to manage crisis when you make sure you have a relationship with someone with power like "the president." (read the article).  However, in this case I don't known what will help. "I wish they have spoken to me." So president Obama says.  And what would you say? "Don't DO IT!"  Why did not anyone think this was a bad idea? (it may be a fun idea).

Does Sony Pictures have a higher purpose in producing this movie?

Because there is a difference between making fun of some historical individual who passed away and involving people who is still alive that is in great power.  Especially, when they are seen equivalent to "God" in their country.

On the other hand if it does get publish it is a great insult to North Korea and if it does go public in North Korea it can significantly shave off the power of dictatorship because they are no longer "untouchable."  Saying or doing the taboo is powerful. Romanian Revolution started with anonymous crowd booing, so if this is the right timing the movie can work as a "boo" too.

Either way it is an interesting psychological "war" an individual company began with another country.

For the article see: http://www.bloomberg.com/politics/articles/2014-12-23/obama-is-pals-with-sony-executive-he-said-never-called

How Mission Leads: What an Ordinary Staff at Papa Johns can teach us about Marketing, Sales, and Service.

How Mission Leads: 

What an Ordinary Staff at Papa Johns can teach us about Marketing, Sales, and Service.

So look at the picture, it’s that Philly Cheese Steak Large Pizza from Papa Johns and the 10pcs Chicken bites.  Okay, okay, it’s not the most healthiest thing on this universe but hey! Some lightning stroke me.

To defend my part I used to have an account with Papa Johns, and every other delivery stuff on planet and I do not have it anymore, thank you very much.

But the point is!

How much do you think that cost?

$30 with tip?

$25?

$20?

NONE!  ZERO! $0!

Okay just that for some who knows me will say, okay TAKA is doing that negotiation stuff again and showing off.

NO! NOT this time!

AND! There was a great teaching moment through this event that shows the importance of mission, values, translating it to group, and employees being the best marketer and salesperson to your brand.

This is what happened.  Lightning strikes, and I decided to order some pizza, for no reason.  I was planning to make some food for myself.  Moreover, I don’t like to eat pizza in the first place that much (yes that’s bull).  And I look for some things, but I guess Bellevue, WA is like the “nice” area, that they don’t do delivery pizza as much and I ended up with those usual choices (i.e., Pizza Hut, Dominos, Papa Johns, Little Caesars, etc.).  Well, I chose Papa Johns, I ordered the pizza online.

One problem!  I clicked on pick-up not delivery. Delivery was what I wanted!

So, I call to negotiate to change to delivery, as usual.  And the staff, Mr. Blake says sure!

10-20 minutes later.

Mr. Blake calls, and apologize that the store cannot deliver to my address because it is too far.

That makes sense that I was not able to send it as delivery in the first place.

I actually went back and checked.  You get a small red text at the top telling you “We're sorry. Papa John's does not offer delivery service for the address you entered. We do, however, have stores that offer carryout service.” Ahh.

Now so whose fault is it?  You know what, it is my error in the first place, well if you want to be an ineffective human being then you can say “It’s Papa John’s fault of having the text being so small!” or “It’s Blake’s fault who said okay we can deliver when they couldn’t!”

Stop being a BMW (B!tch, Whining, and Moaning  person) please!

Well the teaching comes here.  Blake, the ordinary staff, apologizes and makes the pizza (order) free, if I go pick it up!   

WOW!

In my mind I was planning for some negotiation of minor thing like a discount but not for FREE!

I jumped into my car and drove.

It was raining and plus there was some event and it took me a while to get to Bellevue downtown.

I was little suspicious but Blake as he claimed gave me the whole order for FREE.

Story does not end here. Because you are dealing with Dr. Taka Endo!

I asked:

Me: “Who is the decision maker for giving this pizza for free?”

Blake: “I am.”

Me: “Did you decided to give this free or is this part of the training?”

Blake: “I decided… well it is kind of part of training.  When events like this happen and there is some screw ups, I decide based on what will keep things ‘Fun’ because pizza should be a fun food.”

Me: “That’s awesome, I am surprised and you are amazing.”

Blake: “No, I’m not a good person, I just do some things.”

Me: “Well even there is training, not everyone can act based on great values.”

We shook hands and I got his name and he thanked me.

Debriefing:

What happened: There was a mess up where primary reason why for the problem was me and Blake gave me the pizza for free.

Why: Because he acted to resolve the problem based on his values/companies values.

What did we learn: Its when problems happen, that the integrity and strength of a company is challenged, and how much you have taught and trained the employee shows up.  Moreover, for an about $22-25 Papa Johns is getting great PR and Marketing from me writing this.  It cost them $22-25.  I have written this on blog, facebook, tweeter, and possibly use the story in my book.

Papa Johns mission is to create raving fans through “(a) authentic, superior-quality products, (b) legendary customer service and (c) exceptional community service.” And one of their core values are P.A.P.A (people are priority always).

The ordinary staff working in this company acted based on this mission and core values which aligned with his value/belief of “pizza is a fun food.”

My mentor/teacher, author of bestselling book on sales and teamwork, Blair Singer mentioned that these “code of honor,” a set rules each person follows, are essential to the company (any unit like family), and with it each employee will sell the product naturally.  For sure Blake has sold the product or the brand of Papa John’s really well to me.

And just like quality management guru, W. Edward Duming said, "statistically, quality is always cheaper [for the company]." Keep great quality product, service, and staff, with right marketing the company will explode in its value.

I don’t know this event generalizes to all Papa John’s but, one thing I can say is that ordinary guy is money for the company, and they should keep him.  Whoever trained him should get credit too. And if you are interested it is the Papa John’s by the Bellevue Square.

http://www.papajohns.com/about/pj_mission.shtm

I came home and writing this article, I ate the pizza, unfortunately the time elapsed too long and it is cold but makes my heart warm, and definitely was a FUN experience.

Awesome Experience trumps all benefits of what you are selling.

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Oh, yes I am writing a book right now about targeted brain training, systematic self-help book that assesses and creates specific easy habits that people can continue subconsciously to succeed (like CBT homeworks we give in therapy but easier and more customized to the client) by effectively stimulating the brain to control brain chemicals, and strengthen neuron-connection/create new dendrites.  And by theory we can increase cells too.  

I will be asking friends to do some survey so if you see it please do it! And Help me out!

The book will be forwarded by Raymond Aaron, New York Times Bestselling Author of one of the dummies series, two of chicken soup series, and a book relating to business after he completed one of the toughest race on earth the “Polar Race” coming in 4^th place at age 62.  I have a publisher, and book architect (editor and program designer). So, it is really happening and really excited.

How to choose a good therapist /counselor/ psychologist/ mental health practitioner -Myth about Therapist-

Myth About Therapist

"How do I find a therapist like you?"

I actually got this question couple of times in my life as a practitioner and as ego stroking as it is (thank you for those who believes that I am outstanding), I really did not know the answer.

The actual question is:

"How do I find a good therapist?"

I wanted to know this too.  Because I wanted to be an outstanding therapist.

Thus, good amount of time, my graduate school research was about competence of the therapist.

Let me share you what I found.

Beginning with some myth about "Good Therapist"

*Following information is based on Dr. Scott D Miller's research (refer: http://www.scottdmiller.com/).

MYTH 1) A Therapist with a Higher Degree is Better.

I think many doctorate degree therapist will hate me for saying this, yet the research shows there is not much of a difference between those who are at doctor level, master level, and bachelor level.

This is because the first step of therapy requires real human interaction and communication.  Ability to build good human relationship does not reflect on the degree the person has.  The difficulty of mental health therapist to an medical doctors is that we need to not only get written consent to treatment but we need emotional and psychological consent from our clients/patients.  We need our clients to know us, like us, and trust us at a high level.

SO: Choose a person you can fully trust, 98% of building that relationship is the therapist's responsibility.

MYTH 2) A Therapist with More Experience is Better.

More Experience = Better Right?  WRONG!!!  More Practice = Better.  Think about it, we cannot correct our self when we are giving the actual therapy.  Imagine practicing basketball or piano, when you make a mistake you go back and practice until you be "perfect."  When do you think therapist does that?  "After graduate school when friends and your mentor bust your, you know what (if then), I don't know."

Another point:  Which do you think is better?  A Newly Graduated Therapist OR A Therapist Who Have YEARS of Experience?

Correct answer is, "A NEWLY GRADUATED THERAPIST" because they know the most CUTTING EDGE TECHNOLOGY and TECHNIQUES.

Of course, if you can confirm that the experienced therapist has been humble and has been keeping updating his/her knowledge and skills then they're better.  Good luck finding such people (like seriously).

MYTH 3) A Therapist who has Experienced What I am Going Through Before is Better.

Like Recovering Addict treating Substance/ Other Addicts, Like Ex-Depressed Person Treating Depressed, Parent treating parent, like Domestic Violence victim treating another DV victim.

WHO SAID THEY OVERCAME THEIR PROBLEM? OR APPLY WHAT THEY KNOW TO THEIR LIFE?

Have you ever seen a sales person not wearing, having, riding, etc. their own product?
SAME DEAL.

It is important to find a therapist that HAS WHAT YOU WANT.

What do I mean?  I mean if you want to be HAPPY then the therapist should look that they are HAPPY regardless of their experience.

The ability to care for you does not necessary come from that they also experienced the same thing.  More worst is when that person had that problem and resolved it effortlessly and does not know how but believe its easy to resolve.

They will have an attitude like "Why can't you just let it go?" "Why can't you resolve it, its so easy?"
It may be true but if they don't really know how, then I will bet you that you will be annoyed.

MYTH 4) A Good Therapist will Make Me Feel Good INSTANTANEOUSLY

Yeah... what you think a quick fix end up like?  Like Duct Tape on a toilet pipe, yes it does its job for now but is that your true goal? To have the same problem over and over and over and over again?

A Good Therapist will be upfront with you, that treatment will take time to truly be effective.  Specifically, in shortest 4, average 8, at maximum 26 sessions.  After 26 sessions there is some effect but other then maintenance or prevention of the problem it has not much of an effect.

Well, either way as effect size goes (how effective the treatment is to the symptoms), we do a better job then over the counter headache medicine or tooth pastes.  Long term for mild to moderate symptoms better and cheaper than medications.

MYTH 5) A Therapist Who Use a Particular Method is Better than Another

 According to the American Psychological Association official report, IF the therapy/treatment is STRUCTURED there is not much difference among "style" (methods).  Just choose what you like.  By the way if you're not sure about the styles, I'm not going to say "google it" rather I would suggest to check if the therapist can explain you the clear plan.  They "should" have one, if not, you know what to do. (However, give them at least 3 session to conceptualize and create the plan, by then your job is to give as much information to the therapist and check if you get the "bond" with them).